Empathy is the foundation of real human connection, but there is a big asterisk here.
Some of us who identify as empaths or “feelers” might have a hard time not taking the full weight of the heavy thing and putting it on our own shoulders.
We try to help others by absorbing their trauma and in a way, making it our own. This is evidence of great love and good intentions for our friends, as well as flimsy boundaries that reveal our own wobbling self love.
Read MoreAs you likely know from experience, designing boundaries is not an easy task. It comes with second-guessing yourself, a lot. "Am I being dramatic?" "What if I tell this person I can no longer have them in my life, and they come back in a few weeks or months healed?" "Will I feel stupid for drawing a boundary?"
This second guessing can be frustrating, but I'm here to tell you it's actually a good thing. If you're working on setting boundaries and second-guessing yourself, it means you are thinking through all of your potential options and outcomes - which effectively means you are not being dramatic or impulsive in your choices.
Read MoreSo you've tried a few therapists, but haven't felt like you're getting much out of therapy yet and you aren't really "clicking" with them.
Let me tell you from experience, this totally sucks. Check out these tips for ways to find a therapist you actually like to talk to!
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